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12 of the worst things wedding planners say brides and grooms have done

Helena Horton

21 June 2016

Planning a wedding can make even the most mild person a bit tense and stroppy. That's why many people hire wedding planners, to alleviate this stress. However, for some, this still doesn't stop them acting like nightmare brides and grooms. A thread on Reddit collated the experiences of wedding planners - and what these people went through will probably make anyone suffering from planning a stressful wedding breathe a sigh of relief. Here are some of the worst things bridezillas and groomzillas have done to their wedding party and wedding planners

1. "How dare you get married in the same year as me!!"
"A bride once called having a meltdown because her friend got engaged as well and was planning to get married in the same year as she was... Apparently it was her special year and not just a day. She threw a huge fit that this girl was only getting married to "steal her thunder"...

"Yes, because no one else can have a life at the same time as you. Her friends date wasn't even in the same month or season. Hers was in October and her friends was in June.... Brides sometimes don't think rationally."

2. The photographer who got punched
"Friend is a photographer. Does weddings. Got punched in the face by the groom because the groom decided that the photographer was "taking too many photos of the bride."

"Weddings seem to bring out the worst in humanity."

3. "I found the groom outside on a balcony just smoking a cig and staring into the sun with the longest sigh I've ever heard in my life."

"I worked a wedding where I basically had to play a game of telephone all day long.

"I'm a photographer and came onsite the day of a wedding to meet with the planner/coordinator who promptly told me to be careful around the bride. Apparently at the rehearsal the prior night the bride thought the coordinator was taking too much of her time (after two questions), and relayed through her bridesmaid that the coordinator was no longer allowed to speak to the bride or even look her in the eye. All communication would have to go through a family member from there on out.

"I had worked with this coordinator in the past and knew her to be a consummate professional and pleasant person to be around. She had actually assumed the bride would get over her tantrum the day of the wedding, but nope, still no talking or eye contact. The coordinator tried her best to keep the wedding day going smoothly and on time but it was really tough to do so through proxy. Taking photos took forever because I had to make sure a bridesmaid or sister was always with us to tell the couple where to stand and how to pose. It was one of the most awkward jobs I ever had.

"Also should mention that when I came onsite for the wedding, I was able to locate the bride by the sound of her screaming at her hair/makeup artists. By the time I came into the bridal suite, she had switched to screaming at her bridesmaids for looking prettier than her and made them change their hairstyles to "look uglier."

"After I was done with the getting-ready portraits, I found the groom outside on a balcony just smoking a cig and staring into the sun with the longest sigh I've ever heard in my life."

4. Mothers can be tricky as well...
"How about momzilla? I was the planner for a wedding and had been working with the bride and groom. A few months in to planning the grooms mom calls me to change the date of the wedding.

"I thought it was kind of weird and called the couple to confirm the change. NOPE! Couple did not know anything about the date change and said to completely ignore the grooms mom and call them if she tried to get in contact."

5. The bride who fell in love with her wedding planner
"I may be late to the party but here goes. I'm not a wedding planner, but I do work in the industry and my friend is the wedding planner I'm telling this story about.

"He is a good looking, straight male that has an amazing eye for design and detail. He can do everything from wedding dress design and execution, flowers, you name it. And his services are not cheap.

He had a bride who called him up a few days before her wedding and told him she couldn't go through with the wedding because she was in love with someone else. The conversation went something like this:

"Bride: 'I can't marry him, I just don't love him anymore, I think I'm in love with someone else!'

"Him: 'What do you mean you're in love with someone else!? Your wedding is in 5 days!'

"Bride: 'Well.... I'm in love with you. You just GET me! I've never met anyone else like you!'

"Him: '...Do you know how much your parents are paying me to get you?!'

"She ended up getting married 5 days later and it was never mentioned again."

6. The couple who 'romantically' took ketamine on their wedding day
"I work on a mobile bar that travels to different weddings in our region of the country.

"We had this couple who were a bit strapped for cash so we did their wedding for cheap (we normally serve more lavish weddings).

"Anyway, they were so nice to begin with but a lot of their guests brought their own alcohol to the venue which isn't allowed. We confiscated it and promised to give it back at the end. One of these guests was the groom's father who brought a whole keg of ale.

"Around 10pm most of the guests were leaving (the party was supposed to go on until 1am) as the bride and groom had been taking drugs (ketamine I think) and were pretty mashed. We weren't selling any more drinks so we decided to leave early, refund the customers a bit of money and leave all the confiscated booze behind.

"The bride (who booked us) was cool with this so we proceeded to leave.

"The groom was not cool with this.

"Just after we packed up he started demanding drinks and the phone numbers of all our female staff - we denied of course as the bar was packed away and nobody wanted to give him their number. Eventually we had packed everything in to my bosses trailer and were ready to leave.

"We all ran to he car park as the groom was kicking off by this point and everyone jumped into my bosses car apart from me (as I drove myself). My boss pulls away out if he car park as the groom comes out of the venue and starts hurling chairs at her car and trailer, screaming nonsense and swearing at the same time.

"He hadn't noticed me yet. I turned the key in my car (a classic VW Bug) which of course didn't start. He noticed me then. I kept trying the engine and after a few tries it started. I turned on my headlights and there he was. 6'2" of ket-head groom standing with brock eyes in front of my tiny car.

"I couldn't get round him as he kept running in front of me so I decided to drive straight at him and hope he moved out of the way. He didn't. Instead he jumped on to my car and eventually fell off the curved bonnet."

7. The bride who didn't believe her dress size
"My mom worked in a bridal salon when she was in college.

"Sizing was a nightmare. Sandra came in to try on gowns. She tried on the large sample dress, had it pinned to see how it would look on her if it was her size. She said this was it, so my mom took her measurements, and figured out what size she needed to order.

"My mom told her her dress will be a size 8 based on her measurements; Sandra threw a fit. "That's impossible! All of my other dresses are size 4! I have been a size 4 since I was 14. I am not an 8! Order me a 4!"

"My mom would explain how sizes vary from designer to designer and that, while she may be a 4 normally, with the designer of her dress her measurements are considered an 8, and it's just a number, and if it's too big it can be taken-in but a 4 couldn't be taken-out... Sandra took none of that. Despite all protest, she demanded a 4.

"A couple weeks before the wedding her size 4 dress arrived. It wouldn't zip (duh). Bride had a meltdown. Mom had to apologize and reorder a larger dress at the bridal salon's expense."

8. When the mother of the groom's child turned up...
"I have extensive experience as an events coordinator, including private events such as weddings.

"The worst I've personally witnessed had a grooms baby mama (and ex fiancé) come to the reception uninvited. She grabbed the wedding cake, chucked it at the newlyweds, and began screaming how he was a deadbeat dad while she grabbed table wine bottles that she smashed on the ground.

"Everyone was stunned in shock at first, but the ex fiancé was ultimately restrained by the groomsmen. We called the police, and she was charged with assault, assault with a weapon (from waving around a wine bottle and clocking a groomsman,) and destruction of private property (both from the couple and the venue.) What a charmer. In the end, the parents of the groom asked me to arrange a lovely (and secret) private dinner for the newlyweds and their bridal party to make up for the fiasco."

9. The bride who bit the driver
"I work as a Hotel Manager and we see bridezillas all the time.

"The worst was when a bride was so upset that she couldn't fit all of her bridesmaids on one shuttle back from the reception (they took two vans on a 10 minute trip back to the hotel and it only seats 12) that she tried to physically assault the driver.

"He left her on the side of the road when she tried to bite him.

"The kicker? When the groom found out and came to get her- she was acting so crazy he went to pick her up with her parents and when they found her trudging back down the highway and heard her s****y attitude they left her there too."

10. A rational response to the groom being late
"We had one groom who was an hour late. His bride laid down on the floor, pulled the back of her dress over her head, and started singing nursery rhymes to herself until he could be located."

11. The groom who tried to set the venue on fire
"The groom got mega plastered and smashed a bottle of cognac on the dance floor and literally tried to set in on fire. The function supervisor tried to tell him very politely that he couldn't and he got a bit upset about that and started screaming "this is my wedding and if I want to burn this place down I will", cops were called."

12. The drunk - and pregnant - bride
"I had a bride announce her pregnancy at the reception...and proceeded to get trashed. The groom and her parents kept taking drinks out of her hand and she kept slurring "yeah, like I'm not going to drink at my own wedding". I finally convinced her to switch to vodka sodas so she wouldn't stain her dress and she drank club soda for the rest of the night and was none the wiser.

"Another bride poured a gravy boat full of A1 (don't ask) all over a guest who wore a white pantsuit to the wedding but that one was sort of funny and the pantsuit lady sort of deserved it."

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