10 Commandments Finding the Perfect Wedding Dress

 

10: Keep your eyes on the prize

 

Shopping for a dress is stressful and emotional.  You may get defeated because you may think you are just not too girly girl.  But the truth is “Everyone has a bridal style!”  You just have to find yours and let is shine through.  On your wedding day be the best version of yourself.  If you are a tomboy, it’s ok you can wear your usual running shoes under your ballgown.

 

9: Do not Overshop

 

If you keep shopping for new and different styles it is easy to talk yourself out of the right dress.  Trust your gut when you find a dress you love.  Once you found your fiancé you stopped looking for guys right?

 

8: Keep an Open Mind

 

There's a reason bridal salons are staffed with consultants. These experts are trained to dress various body types and to make recommendations based on the type of wedding you're having and in what season or location you're getting married. Listen to them! Even if you're determined to wear a mermaid dress, trust the consultant when she pulls a lace A-line for you. Maybe he or she knows something you don't.

 

7:Leave the Past Behind

 

Maybe you're a little older than you thought you'd be when you got married. Maybe you're pining for a dress that's no longer being produced by the designer. Maybe you lost or gained weight, and your body isn't what it used to be. Inhale deeply and let it -- whatever "it" is -- go. Shop for the woman you are at this very moment, not the woman you were five years ago.

 

6: Honor Thy Mother and Father...Up to a Point

 

Whether you're a daddy's girl or mom's best friend, it's important to take their opinions into consideration when choosing your dress. You might have a different perspective entirely if you're not close to either parent. Point is, if your parents are paying for the dress, they get a say in what it looks like. Plus, some good, old-fashioned respect for mama never hurt any relationship. Your wedding is emotional for her, too, so be sensitive to her feelings.

 

5: Honor The Bride's Opinion Over All Others

 

The second you started wearing that ring, you developed bridal intuition. That's a sixth sense that lasts through your wedding planning and instinctively guides you in making some pretty tough decisions. (Peonies or roses? Cut your parents' friends from the guest list or nix the Rolls Royce for the grand send-off?) Listen to that voice inside your head when shopping for a dress. If you want the princess dress your friends hate -- and you know you look good in it -- the choice is clear.

 

4: Pick Thy Wedding Posse Carefully

 

Ten years from now, you may not remember who accompanied you on your dress shopping mission, but you'll remember how you felt when you left the salon. Were you elated, having found your dress and ready to celebrate over lunch? Or were you disappointed, leaving empty-handed after hearing too many opinions or (heaven forbid) criticisms? Shopping with those who love you and support you unconditionally will lead to shopping success. That's not permission to bring your entire sorority pledge class.

Limit your entourage to just 3-5 people with sound judgment.

 

3: Do Not Bring The Fiance's Ex

 

This point needs no explanation.

 

2: Do Not Covet a Dress Outside Thy Budget

 

There is no possible scenario in which buying a dress you can't afford has a happy ending. Don't even try on a dress that's over budget. Say you fall in love with a $10,000 dress and your budget is $2,000. What now? A) You put it on your credit card and go into dress debt before you walk down the aisle. Fail. B) You guilt whoever's writing the check into spending more on you, and you strain the relationship. Big fail. C) You get your dress and look amazing, but you have to slash costs elsewhere, and you give up the band, premium appetizers and open bar. Biggest fail of all because your wedding will be a lot less fun.

 

1: Leave Your Fiance At Home

 

Leave a little something to your future husband's imagination by letting him skip dress shopping. It's incredibly special to see your fiance at the end of the aisle waiting for you. Blow him away with how gorgeous you look, and keep the dress a secret. If you bring him shopping, you risk boring him, shocking him with the cost of bridal attire or compromising your vision for something he prefers.